In the ABC News 20/20 Special Edition, "The Blind Side: The Real Story Behind the Movie" some of the discussion revolved around how blacks view a wealthy white family helping a poor black kid.
To the first question about this Leigh Anne Tuohy responds, "It has nothing to do with what color Michael was, how big he was. He was a child that had a need and it needed to be filled."
The ABC host Deborah Roberts continues to pursue this topic. "What do you say to people who say they feel a little offended that this white couple took this black kid in and tried to kind of mold him into what they wanted?"
Leigh Anne Tuohy responds, "No one has the guts to say that to my face. No one has ever said that to my face and if they did I would tell them don't let the door hit you on the way out."
This is a southern bells way of saying they don't say it to my face because they can not defend it. However, these same persons will say it to others and when they do they have disqualified themselves from the debate.
Deborah Roberts continues; "While millions have flocked to the feel good message many blacks have yet to see it. Critics say it perpetuates an old stereotype."
Then Deborah Roberts continues the same line of questioning with Michael Oher. "There are some black people who feel a little uneasy about the notion of the wealthy white family who comes into help the poor black kid."
Michael Oher responds, "I don't understand why people would feel that way because as long as someone…is taking someone off the street, I don't care if their black or white or whatever. It shouldn't ever be a problem."
Michael's response is gentle and yet has powerful implications for those who raise such a question. Basically he is saying if all you see in this story is a stereotype of a privileged white family helping a poor underprivileged black kid rather than people helping people, it says more about you than it says about the story.
Let me be a little more direct than Michael and Leigh Anne Tuohy.
Anyone who is uneasy about the notion of the wealthy white family helping a poor black kid, is elevating race over the person. This is why they are unable to see one human being helping another human being in the story. In fact the implication is they missed the story because they can't see past the baggage they brought to it.
Acknowledging racism and its destructive consequences, with all the evil that it creates, when it exists, says one thing about a person. But it says something vastly different when these same people see race in the loving acts of charity from one family to another human being.
It is an evil contained in racism that it does not want those of another race to be successful. This is the destructive insecurity that all racist share in common. But when someone would prefer even those of their own race be kept in poverty rather than lifted by the charity of a person of another race, this marks the lowest of all racists.
The fact that some cannot find joy in the story of one human being helping another human being does not speak to the content of the movie. Rather, it clearly reflects their utter destructive morality.
So if the story made you feel uncomfortable, don't point fingers at the story, look within yourself. When acts of kindness and love make you feel uncomfortable it is time to admit your would view is as as destructive as is the evil in the world view you oppose. Your discomfort is proof you have become that which you oppose.
Sandra Bullock said it best. "If your money has cultural boundaries, or religious boundaries or color boundaries then your not really using your money in the right way."
We would be even more blunt. Where does racism reside when those who help another make you uncomfortable only because they are white?
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